Let’s Talk About Sex!


Let’s Talk About Sex!

by Jalyn Hall
May 15, 2024
A mother and her teen daughter go for a walk.

Talking to our parents about sensitive subjects like sex can be super difficult. But it’s so important to navigate our way through awkwardness, embarrassment, and discomfort to get accurate information, establish boundaries, and better understand what a healthy relationship looks like. In this diary, we delve into the significance of engaging in open dialogue about sex with parents and explore strategies for initiating and navigating these conversations with maturity and a calm sound mind.

The Importance of Dialogue

First things first, effective communication between you and your parents regarding your sexual health is associated with numerous benefits. Moreover, these dialogues between you and your parent provide a safe space to seek guidance, gain clarity, and a deeper understanding of consent, respect, and intimacy within your relationships. By fostering open communication with your parents, they can empower you to make informed decisions and cultivate a sense of agency over your sexual well-being and safety.

Initiating the Conversation

Initiating discussions about sex can be a little awkward and funny to ask about. Get comfortable talking to your parents about anything that you’re curious about or need assistance with first. You should try selecting a private setting away from distractions where both you and your parent feel comfortable and at ease. For instance, a casual walk, car ride, or designated one-on-one time can be great environments for a comfortable and effective conversation about sex. Beginning the conversation with an expression of genuine curiosity, such as inquiring about their experiences or seeking practical advice, can help alleviate initial tension and foster a sense of mutual respect, curiosity, and understanding.

Navigating the Dialogue

Throughout the conversation, maintaining a non-judgmental and empathetic demeanor is key. Don’t be shy, just open up and ask any questions you need answered. Your parents are there to guide you after all! When having a conversation about sex with your parents, ask questions and share how you feel about engaging in sexual activity. Make sure to express your honest thoughts and feelings to your parent when discussing. Despite potential discomfort, acknowledging your emotions, such as nervousness or embarrassment, can facilitate a more authentic and productive exchange of information between everyone. 

Setting Boundaries

Setting clear boundaries makes sure that talks about sex stay respectful and helpful for everyone. By figuring out these boundaries beforehand, both you and your parents can have these conversations in a thoughtful and understanding way, building trust and respect between you and making the conversation flow more organically and with less awkwardness.

Keeping the Conversation Going

Just because you finish one talk with your parents doesn't mean it's over. It's the start of an ongoing conversation and growth in your relationship! It's super important to have follow-up talks where you can clear up any confusion, ask more questions, and get support from your parents. By keeping things open and honest, your parents can help you feel confident about asking for advice and dealing with tricky stuff about sexual health and relationships.

Trust me, I know talking to your mom or dad about sex might seem super awkward and a bit scary, but trust me, it's worth it. When we have open conversations with our parents, it helps build strong, healthy relationships based on trust and good communication. By listening to each other, setting boundaries, and offering support, both parents and teens can understand each other better. Let's see these talks as chances to learn and ensure everyone is well-informed and empowered for the future.

Jalyn will graduate from Jackson Reed High School in Washington, DC. She is the DC Youth Attorney General and a member of NHS for the class of 2024 and plans to study nursing and cosmetic dermatology in college.